Pain transference
A friend of mine was going through a tough trial.
Her heart was so heavy she said she thought about driving over the edge of the freeway... trying to kill her self.
At that moment God spoke to her heart saying:
“If you do that, the pain won’t go away, it will just be transferred”
This Truth has stuck with me and I’m thankful for it.
Pain doesn’t evaporate.
Pain might lessen or get dulled over time, but it’s still there...
When a little girl is hurt by her daddy, that pain gets transferred to her boyfriend or perhaps later to a husband.
When a little boy is hurt by others, he can later become a bully at his workplace.
When a parent dies young, that pain can be transferred to drinking, drug use, party life, or even anger towards God.
When someone kills himself, the pain often gets transferred to the family.
The pain doesn’t go away... it’s just transferred.
We all walk around with wounds.
However, we don’t have to live wounded.
The wounds don’t leave us, but we can choose to transfer the pain to Jesus.
Jesus is the ultimate pain taker.
One thing I have learned about pain is that it makes us humans vulnerable and irrational.
I remember a friend telling me that when she was giving birth to her first child (without an epidural) she thought, “Jesus just take me. Kill me now, because this pain is not tolerable!”
Yes child birth is indeed painful (with or without an epidural) but to wish for death in that moment is not reasonable or rationale.
Pain calls for a release and relief- that’s where Jesus comes in...
Here’s the amazing thing about God-
He knows all about pain and He wants us, invites us to transfer it to Him.
Jesus knows pain ... personally.
He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem
Isaiah 53:3 (NIV)
Surely our griefs He Himself bore, And our sorrows He carried; Yet we ourselves esteemed Him stricken, Smitten of God, and afflicted.
Isaiah 53:4
NASB
Familiar with pain and yet He invites us to give it to Him, to transfer it to Him.
“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.””
Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV
Dear beloved in Christ,
I’m sorry for the pain you are enduring. I’m sorry for the hurt that just seems to never go away. Please know you are not alone. God knows what pain is like. He watched as Jesus hung on the cross to save the world. God is not a distant being, He is as close as your breathe. The pain you experienced feels unnatural and that is because you are not made for this world. Jesus created you for heaven, for eternal life. Transfer your pain to Jesus, hand it to Him because it’s not your pain to bear. He wants to carry it for you. Yes you will feel the wound, but you will always smile knowing Jesus took the bigger share of pain and He will right all wrongs one day in heaven.
